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30 October 2013: Attention beautiful ladies of the world, you don’t need a man to be happy. You can be happy with just about anything. Whether it’s fixing your hair real nice, doing your makeup, or going out in the fresh air. Doing something that you love can be ...
Trying to Impress everyone? Find ways to make yourself happy first. You can't impress everyone.
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27 November 2012: Not really sure why I'm writing this but it is in hopes of expressing myself because I feel if I keep trying to impress everyone, I let myself down. Because I know I can’t always get everyone to like me, not everyone is going to and that’s complete...
Just in honor of world peace.
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16 April 2012: I've had an absence since 2010, I know, it's been a while, but I'm coming back just to help out with anyone, it doesn't have to be based on just relationship trouble either. So I apologize if that's what you're looking for in this article, these are ...
Trying to make a change!
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16 October 2010: When the questions are coming into your head, and they're destined to be answered. Maybe a young shy girl who may have had a bit of reality, can try to give you a helpful hypothesis. So why does our planet revolve around the center of Drugs, Crime, ...
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How do men deal with the hair 'down there'?
Q. This question is really difficult to ask people in real life so here goes. Ladies, what's your opinion on pubic hair on your men? Shaved, trimmed or untouched? And men, if you're shaving down there, how do you handle the testicular area? ...
A. 3 November 2017: Do what makes YOU feel comfortable, as long as you take care of yourself and are hygienic then that speaks volumes as is. Besides, I'm sure if you're both attracted it would be of little importance. :)... (read in full...)
How can I tell him that I suffer anxiety without making it sound like an excuse for needy behaviour?
Q. Hi everyone, I suffer from anxiety, and I've suffered it for a fair few years. I've had a boyfriend now for a few months. I haven't told him yet. So when I get anxious I tend to text him quite a bit and I've noticed that his texts are becoming l...
A. 22 January 2017: It's not an excuse, anxiety isn't something you can help that you suffer from. I am sure he wouldn't mind you telling him. I don't know much really from your situation from what you have described. But if he cares about you and loves you, he will do ... (read in full...)
My wife left me for her ex, who found her on Facebook and now wants to come back. Should I give her a second chance ?
Q. My wife was contacted by an ex on Facebook who first said he only wanted to be friends, then indicated he wanted more. She showed me his messages and told me they dated in high school and college and she broke up with him twice. The first time...
A. 22 January 2017: Who's to say she isn't going to revert back to her old ways again? You do not know her motives, she needs to stop acting like a child and start facing her own problems. What she did to you was wrong.
I cannot tell you what to do but tell you this... (read in full...)
Why guys appear to disappear?
Q. I was talking to this guy for 9 months. We argued after and hurt his feelings. He did not forgive me. Then i gave it a time. I did not text him for a while. All of a sudden, he texted me as if nothing happens for 2 weeks. He lives in San Diego an...
A. 13 January 2017: You apologized and didn't intentionally mean to hurt his feelings. Not sure why he feels the need to distance himself from you. Maybe he is going through something traumatic that he's not letting you know about? LDR's are brutal not to mention the ... (read in full...)
Need to reset my compass when it comes to men
Q. Dear all All of my life I have struggled with self-acceptance issues. I tried hard to work on my self-esteem and confidence. I'm pretty confident at the current time but the thing is every time anyone approaches me in an intimate way I find myself p...
A. 12 January 2017: Now I'm not trying to startle you with what I have gained from what you said, but I feel like you don't give yourself the benefit of the doubt. There's nothing wrong with you at all, it's not a matter of sexuality as it is your issues with trust and ... (read in full...)
Can you be pregnant with negative test results?
Q. I had sex with a guy one night in September. I dont really remember what happened but i know we had sex. We used a condom but i am unsure if he secretly slipped it off or of the condom may have failed. It isvDecember now and my stomach looks ...
A. 30 December 2016: I had those signs when I was pregnant, but I ended up losing it. (I had spotting very bad) Not trying to scare you or anything. It's just better to get looked at sooner rather than later, I suggest booking an appointment with a proper gynecologist ... (read in full...)
Unsure what to do in this dating situation
Q. I've been seeing a girl for the past month or so. We have very similar ambitions, goals and interests and both really like each other. Currently our dates consist of dinner drinks and dog walks as well as long phone calls. We've met...
A. 29 December 2016: I'd definitely go for it, in fact that's actually a good gesture, I'm sure she'd love going out for her birthday. Make it a bit romantic, caress her face and go for the kiss. Do it with ease and gently, I'm sure she'll drive right in. Lol! Take it ... (read in full...)
Mom told me I can't see my boyfriend. Should I take a taxi and go there?
Q. I want to go to my boyfriends house, but my mom told me I can't tomorrow! I looked at taxi services in my area and was wondering should I call a taxi and go to his house without my mom knowing and then come back home before she gets home?? ...
A. 28 December 2016: Considering your age, I hate to be the bearer of bad news but I would abide by your mothers wishes and not see him. If he truly cares about you, he will understand that you cannot disregard your moms wishes and that you'll see each other in a few ... (read in full...)
Are my reasons for not trusting her valid?
Q. I don't know if I should stay in my relationship. At times it is excellent she can be thoughtful, giving, and highly sexually charged and also will spend a great deal of time just making sure I'm okay, but I find it very hard to trust her she has a ...
A. 25 December 2016: You should always follow your instinct on what you feel is the best choice for you in the long haul. If you feel you cannot trust her and that you think she's not being genuine with you, then I'd definitely suggest cutting off all ties.
Durin... (read in full...)
I just found his sex doll, I’m upset! What do I do?
Q. I just found my boyfriend of 4 yrs silicone sex doll. I haven't had a chance to talk yo him about it bc his mom has been in the hospital but is now coming home. I can't hold it in much longer. I'm upset what do I do?...
A. 24 December 2016: Have you both been having enough sex? Maybe he feels like he isn't getting satisfaction or enough intimacy from you?
I don't know that much by what you described.. Would you mind elaborating further? You should let him know how you feel about him ... (read in full...)
Should I just move on? I don't want to be in the way of them remaking a family.
Q. I'm wondering if I'm being over sensitive to my boyfriend's need to "play family" with his ex and his children. Every week it seems, on his week's with the kids, she's over for some reason or another. He kept the house, she cheated on him a...
A. 23 December 2016: The fact that he went on the whim of telling you that he was still sleeping with her even when you were dating signals a red flag.
Spending time with his children is normal, but excluding you from the picture isn't at all right. If you're supposed... (read in full...)
I'm not going to stop seeing my LDR Bf because a friend doesn't like him. But how do I best handle the situation?
Q. I haven't been dating my boyfriend for very long. He treats me well, loves me and cares about me. We are long distance, so most of my friends have not met him. The thing is my best friend got offended by what he posted online because he has d...
A. 22 December 2016: People often misconstrue what is said online in the form of texts because they cannot easily decipher if they're being rude, serious, or joking around. Some things may come across as offensive. I'm not sure what he said but it sounds like whatever ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is depressed. Is he likely to come back when he's cooled down?
Q. My boyfriend of a year dumped me because he thinks "he's too depressing" for me and he's in a bad place right now. I told him I was okay with it and I'd do anything to make him feel better if he just opened up a little, but he insisted we broke it...
A. 22 December 2016: Usually when someone feels so down on themselves, they feel the need to close everyone off from them. This isn't done to intentionally hurt the other person, they just don't want them to feel so down on them that they need to fix them or something.. ... (read in full...)
My disappointment and depression are acted out in tirades
Q. I am in a relationship with a man who is rather controlling and kind of immature. However, he won't change since we are older. I realize that to enjoy all the great things about him (and he is a wonderful companion for many reasons) I must develop ...
A. 21 December 2016: Developing coping mechanisms could be a huge help. Others have also stated seeking out further help in terms of seeing if there's a certain type of depression. (This doesn't mean anything bad at all!) I have depression myself and I'm currently ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend's bisexual behaviour makes me want to call it quits
Q. Hi people! I'm seriously lost in a discussion with myself whether I accept it or not, but already when I'm doubting, I already know I don't... Anyhow. My girlfriend and her best friend are both bisexual and they have had a tight relationship as...
A. 20 December 2016: I'd wrap up the final chapter to this story before she ends up having sex in front of you. I'm sorry but what she is doing isn't okay. That's disrespectful to do that to your partner, irregardless if it's their friend.
There's a differen... (read in full...)
I can't take any more with this man
Q. Help me please iam getting emontion abused. i have lost nearly 9 stone but he calls me fatty.wobbly and he knows iam hurt by it but laughts and carrys on.does a day go by when he never done it. I do everything for him.he dont seem to be happy unless ...
A. 20 December 2016: By the way he acts I can't even fathom to call him a man. He's not doing you any good, you're a beautiful person. And you shouldn't ever lose who you are in hopes of gaining reassurance from someone who isn't appreciative at all! You have so to ... (read in full...)
Could this be the beginning of an emotional affair ?
Q. Could this be the beginning of an emotional affair?We've been married about five years. My husband is pretty open about most things, and I feel pretty much that I can trust him. The other day he called me over to see what a co-worker had posted o...
A. 20 December 2016: From what I see here, there's not a serious problem I can *necessarily* detect. Unless he does what the previous user says... Staying out late, distancing himself from you, turning down sex, etc. I wouldn't worry quite yet. It's got to feel awful ... (read in full...)
Why has he turned cold?
Q. I've been friends with benefits with a guy for nearly three years. He not seen anyone else and nor have I. Over the coming months he been kissing my forehead, or holding my hand after sex. Recently we had sex and he we were talking and came over and ...
A. 20 December 2016: It's something more beneath the surface, personally... I don't think it has anything to do with you at all. He may have other things going on in his life and is trying to focus on them.
I would try to give him another call and arrange another ... (read in full...)
Take a job I don't want just to keep in contact with a crush?
Q. Hi I'm Sam and I'm 17 years old. I have been working at a bar in the UK temporarily over the Christmas period. I was hoping that after this temporary spell, I would be offered the job permanently. However at the my shift last night, my boss spoke to ...
A. 20 December 2016: First of all, I'm not sure what their regulations are about staff members mingling with one another. Just be on the safe side of things, if you do not like the job. I wouldn't suggest taking it, and does she know how you feel?
You can't just do ... (read in full...)
I feel as though everything in my life is slowly falling apart. But how can I start to address these issues?
Q. Where did it all go wrong? :( I've never had a large circle of friends but I was happy on my last year a total school, having roughly about 5-7 friends whom I spoke with daily. As we all parted for our next journey, we lost touch. I now only sp...
A. 19 December 2016: It's okay, there's absolutely nothing wrong with you at all. I can understand a crap ton about how you feel. I felt like it was always me with friends and job interviews too, hell I'm still trying to find a decent job.
But we pick ourselve... (read in full...)
The LDR visit is not going well and I'm completely lost as to what to do!
Q. Hi, I'm currently 8 months in to a LDR, (we're separated by 10000 miles) and I've just arrived at hers two days ago for a three week visit. The problem I now have is that from the moment I landed she's been off, we've had a chat and she's now to...
A. 19 December 2016: That's sort of a slap in the face to be told all of this the moment you get there to be with her. It's unfortunate at all. It says a lot about her character, if she doesn't see herself with you then that's not your problem. It's hers.
Looks... (read in full...)
Should I write my bus driver crush a Christmas card?
Q. well I seen the bus driver I have a crush on who I think is about 36, I am 33. he is always shy but extra nice towards me and talks very low and mild mannered….so as I am getting on the bus today, he just cheeses and grins with all 32 teeth and says ...
A. 19 December 2016: As the others have said, you may be misinterpreting his behavior as something completely different. Sometimes we flirt without even realizing we're flirting. That's not to say you shouldn't give him a nice holiday card. You totally should, it's the ... (read in full...)
So broken after a fight....Is there hope?
Q. My boyfriend of 6 months and I got into a huge fight last night. Yesterday I came back from work and school feeling pretty overwhelmed the whole day. I came over to his place thinking that he was really excited to see me because he texted me "come ...
A. 30 October 2013: Why would you want to gain reassurance from him after THAT? There's no excuse for that, I don't care if it was an argument. Verbal abuse in a relationship is only a preview of what could happen in the future and I agree with the person above me. You ... (read in full...)
How do you cope with losing a dear friend from arguing?
Q. So, I recently lost a friend, and as typical as it may seem, this was the first time I have ever had a serious falling out with any of my friends. It was a bit ridiculous, really. To explain without getting into real detail, those who were involve...
A. 12 January 2013: Honey, what you can try to do is weed out all of these "fake" friends and replace them with positive ones that motivate you rather than exclude you. A true friend isn't someone that just gives up after you say something you don't agree with, that... (read in full...)
When we have a fight no matter whose fault it is, b/f switches off his cell phone till I beg for forgiveness on facebook. I can't take this!
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 2 years always switches off his mobile when we fight and make me suffer until I send him sorry msg to his Facebook account even when he started the fight and even when he's wrong He did it now too. I can't go thru this suffer...
A. 9 January 2013: That's very immature on his behalf, not yours hun. Do not let this bastard get to you, I truly think he needs to grow a pair because if he can't face his problems then he's never going to get anywhere. How will anything get resolved if he keeps ex... (read in full...)
I asked my BF to have STD tests before we sleep together. He says he can only get results over the phone, not on paper. Can I believe him/ how can I check the results?
Q. Hi guys. I have a matter about health. Me and my boyfriend are going to see each other soon, he will stay with me for 2 weeks. We have planned to sleep together this time, it will be the first time of us. And for health safety, I asked him to take ...
A. 8 January 2013: No proof, no sex. simple as that. ... (read in full...)
Is my friend a jerk for making this disrespectful comment about his African American lover?
Q. This older guy who I am friends with, told me that if he ever got married in the future, he would never tell his wife that he had a sexual relationship with an African American woman because, she would look down on him and so would the entire ...
A. 8 January 2013: Good thing she ended it with him. I wouldn't ever want to be like someone like that. Call him not racist all you want, if he had a problem with her he should have told her that himself. But no, he has to keep it hidden until she's confronted by you, ... (read in full...)
Finding it hard to connect and be myself with my boyfriend. Advice?
Q. I feel really insecure with my new boyfriend. I've had 3 boyfriends in my entire life, i'm 15 and will be 16 in less than a month. My first boyfriend lasted for 9 months, and unfortunely he was just a fool, but once again unforutn...
A. 8 January 2013: Maybe you are just not ready for a relationship. Not saying you should cut all ties but if you can't be yourself around him at all, I don't think there's much you can do. You don't need to change yourself or act like nothing's wrong. Let me tell ... (read in full...)
Is my mother's anger reasonable and normal?
Q. Hi Now before I ask this question I know there will be a lot of people out there ready to jump in and say its just you or that's what parents do but I'm looking for some real advice. Me and my mom have always had a good relationship and seem...
A. 1 January 2013: You know that saying you hurt the ones you love the most? Well that's sort of what she's doing.. I don't think she necessarily means it, I'm not sure. When you're very angry you do stupid things and that's what has been happening. It may be the ... (read in full...)
Was my reaction appropriate?
Q. Dear cupids, I am deeply hurt and can't think straight. I broke up with my boyfriend last year because he was using another girl picture(he claims to be his cousin) as his profile picture on facebook and i suspected cheating. When I told him I was ...
A. 1 January 2013: I think you did the right thing lovely. You do not need that negativity in your life. :) It's just a never ending roller coaster and I'm glad you finally ended it. There's better things to come. ... (read in full...)
Our trio has become a duo and I'm the odd man out
Q. Evening folks, So, about two years ago, I went to this night school and I got on well with two other people. So well in fact, that even up to now, we're still close friends - and always meeting up together and stuff. However, as is expected with...
A. 1 January 2013: You'll find someone so much better, don't worry about her. And if you're just going to be a third wheel then maybe when you meet up you should invite a friend? Just so you don't feel so alone, I've been in that situation before, it's not fun at all. ... (read in full...)
Can I still get her back? Am I stupid to want her back?
Q. Three months ago I heard my ex flirting on the phone with a man (saying stuff like "I'm thinking about you too", they had obviously been meeting), which really hurt me and made me write a touching goodbye message to her. She told me she loves me...
A. 1 January 2013: If she loved you she wouldn't have done that in the first place. You don't just flirt with someone or meet up with them. I'm not sure if she wasn't getting any attention she wanted from you between you and her were dating.. There could have been ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is acting almost paranoid about me leaving him and its really starting to get to me!
Q. I've been seeing my bf now for 4 and a half months, it started really well ( the honeymoon period) but now he's started to over react to situations, and I would almost go as far as calling it paranoid about me leaving him. I no he's had bad past ...
A. 30 December 2012: If he is getting more and more paranoid, then I think you know what you need to do. It's an early sign of a relationship going downwards and I think it'd be best to let him go and find someone much more understandable... People who act that way are ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my alcoholic father?
Q. I'm having a crisis of loyalty. I'm 20 years old and for the past 10 years i've been aware that my dad has had a drinking problem - my parents separated soon before this realisation. Throughout the years there have been many instances where ...
A. 27 December 2012: Your father resembles my father in a lot of ways. They both suffer depression and drinking alcohol only increases that depression more because your ingesting anti-depressants. I'd suggest trying to talk with him about it, don't do it all at once.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend slept at her ex boyfriend's house on Christmas and didn't tell me. What am I supposed to think?
Q. I don't know why my girlfriend would sleep at her ex boyfriend place on Christmas and didn't tell me. She says that him and her are now friends and she's not text me that much either, probably either she's busy or having a wonderful time with him, ...
A. 27 December 2012: You deserve so much better, she's not even worth it honestly. Forget her and move on because I know I wouldn't want to be a rebound. You're better just remaining nothing more than just friends or better yet, just don't associate with her anymore. ... (read in full...)
She treats me like dirt? What can I do?
Q. To everyone else we are perfect for each other. Photos of us together are all over her facebook. She`s forever announcing to the world how much in love she is, and she tells me that all the time. There`s also another side to this. Her secret d...
A. 23 December 2012: This is a dangerous relationship, I really think you need to get out. Sort out a custody agreement for your daughter because this relationship and environment isn't healthy at all, especially not for you. I think the best way to get out of it, is to ... (read in full...)
Why would he lie and should I confront him about it?
Q. I caught my BF in a lie about his contact with his ex-GF. He says he told her not to call, email or txt and that he hasn't heard from her in months. I talked to his sister and she told me he told her the ex had been bugging him to meet and have ...
A. 23 December 2012: It seems pretty mysterious... You know, this isn't the first time I've heard about something like this. But not sure, if he had no reason to lie about contacting her if she was bothering him, then why would he? Maybe he was trying to hide something ... (read in full...)
I admitted I was bi-curious, now she wants to date me...But I prefer men!
Q. I'm in trouble. One of my closer girlfriends would like to date me but I don't think I should date her at all. I admitted that I was bi-curious but honestly, I've never acted on it and I don't believe that it changes that much about me. After she ...
A. 20 December 2012: Try to talk to her gently about the whole thing. Do everything step by step. I admit, it will hurt her if she feels that way about you. Just try your best at putting your words and don't be too harsh when telling her your preference otherwise she'll ... (read in full...)
Broke ex, or well-off baby daddy or neither of them? Help me choose!
Q. I am more confused now more than ever, I split up with the one guy who kept asking for money and he did pay me back and said he was sorry that he shouldn't have done that and that he truly loves me and wants to work things out but they are still ...
A. 18 December 2012: No, honestly. If you want to choose, it's ultimately your decision, but if it is only due to financial problems. It's not worth it, if there is no connection and all the "relationship" is, is bitterness and not to mention full of issues, there's ... (read in full...)
Rejected 3 times by her! What should I do?
Q. I like a girl for no reason. I've been waiting for her for 5 years already. During this 5 years, i've got rejected by her 3 times. Any advice?...
A. 6 December 2012: She's NOT worth it, do not go after a girl who keeps rejecting you especially if you've been waiting for 5 years. You are amazing, do not let this woman phase you, she isn't worth the heart break. You hear me? Eff her, she doesn't deserve you ... (read in full...)
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